How to attract the one into your life


Everybody wants to find “the one” in their lives – that special person that is right for your, perfect in all the ways that matter, imperfect in all the ways that don’t. However, if you really want to get that special someone that you want to spend your life with, you need to take a couple of things in mind. Below you can find some tips on how to find the one, and how to not waste too much time doing so.

Figure out your deal breakers

First of all, you need to figure out what you want, and what you don’t want. Sit down, take out a pen and paper, and think. Think about all the things that are absolute deal breakers for you, and write them on one side. Then, think about the things that might be seen as deal breakers for most people, and write it on the other side.

For example – you might simply not want kids, ever. You focus on other things, you want to enjoy your life more, or you simply don’t really feel like the type of person who wants children. Whatever the reason, it doesn’t matter. On the other hand, maybe traveling is very important for you. A person who simply does not really enjoy traveling may not be the right one for you.

By understanding what you want and what you don’t want you will be able to avoid wasting your time, and the time of the person you went out on a date yet. It basically forces you to figure out what “the one” would look like for you.

Work on yourself…

The one should accept you as you are, warts and all. However, there is a difference between a person with warts, and a person who is not actualized at all. You should strive for self-improvement, becoming better at your profession, growing emotionally, mentally, spiritually. We’re not saying change core facets of your personality. What we are however saying is that there are certain aspects in all of us that are simply not healthy or productive. These aspects of ourselves do not assist us, or the people around us, grow and become more joyful. So, recognize certain parts of yourself that need to be regulated, and then get to work.

…but accept yourself

But, don’t go overboard. Always love yourself, and respect yourself. You will become more attractive to your potential soul mate if you work on developing yourself as a person. However, another attractive aspect is self-love. Accept your flaws, but work on them. Never hate them, never hate yourself. And if you don’t have the energy or strength to work on these flaws today, well, that’s ok too. Be gentle to yourself, talk as if you would talk to a dear friend for whom you want only the best.

Leave the house

You will definitely not meet the one in your own room – you have to get out. Go to parties, meet new people, just go outside and get near other human beings. Now of course, some people simply don’t have the time. For all you introverts and busy professionals, you can always contact a professional dating agency. The point here isn’t that you should turn in to a party animal, or morph into a social butterfly. Rather, it’s to get into the dating market in whichever way you can. Sure, letting fate take the wheel sounds nice, and sometimes you don’t have a choice, but you need to at least get into the car. So take up a hobby you may be interested in, like a book club, or a dance class. Maybe join a gym, take up yoga, or go hiking. Do things that may lead you to new people.

Be open and positive

Try to be open to new experiences as much as you can. Be open and positive, try to see the good in everything. You will attract more positive energy, and more people into your life if you are actually open for them. Don’t just disregard what other people say, actually listen, be encouraging and enthusiastic. While this may be difficult at first, with practice you will get better at it, and it will soon become second nature. You know perfectly well that you will attract more flies with honey than vinegar.


So there you have it folks, a quick little guide on bagging the one. While you can’t control fate, you can control yourself. So, first figure out what you actually want, and what you don’t want. Then, try to get out of your house as much as possible and meet new people. Try to be open and positive, and both work on yourself and love yourself in equal measure.

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